One of the greatest joys I have as a life coach is to making a positive difference in others’ lives by helping people empower themselves to make positive changes in their thoughts, beliefs and actions. So many of my clients have been through extreme challenges and hit rock bottom – some have even been in trouble with the law and behind bars. Because of the many mistakes and poor choices I’ve made in the past, I had to figure out how to turn my life around. It’s also given me understanding, compassion and empathy towards others because I know the emotional state of someone going through rough times.
The first thing we must realize is that we create most of our problems and must take responsibility for our choices, beliefs and behavior no matter what. We also have to stop blaming other people, our childhood and outside situations for the mess we’re in. No one holds a gun to our head and makes us do anything. When we truly change inside, are willing to do whatever it takes and take different action, then our lives change. The truth is, most people have already beaten themselves up for what they’ve done and feel like a complete failure. They don’t need someone else to beat them down and continue to tell them how bad they are.
Does this mean that any behavior is okay, we shouldn’t be held accountable and there aren’t consequences? Of course not and we have to do whatever we can to make things right. It’s so easy to judge others solely on their mistakes and throw them away like a piece of trash. I personally believe in rehabilitation, giving people a second chance and seeing their potential. I’m very honest, don’t sugar-coat anything and sometimes it has taken a little butt kicking with my clients. I’ve also seen them change dramatically when they were encouraged, shown love and compassion.
Even though we’ve made mistakes and poor choices, the reality is that we are not our mistakes … or a bad person.
Taylor Kay Stephens, speaker, author and transformational life coach, is no stranger to tragedy, adversity and obstacles. She teaches people how to get out of overwhelm, change their bad habits and stop self-defeating behaviors. What makes Taylor different? She challenges the status quo and thinks outside the box. She’s developed her own easy, practical techniques and systems so simple a child can do them. You may contact her at resolutionspeaking@sbcglobal.net and discover more at taylorkaystephens.com
