By Taylor Kay Stephens
My perspective; Having gone through extreme tragedy, adversity and many obstacles, all of which I experienced the full range of emotions. I didn’t like what was happening, I was desperate, scared, fearful and full of despair. In order to save myself, I had to find a way to get through it because no one was going to save me. I also had to get professional help. Hopefully this will give you a new way of looking at the aftermath of this election.
Folks, I can’t control the outcome or other people – and things are going to happen the way they are going to happen. It doesn’t mean you have to like or be happy about it, and feelings aren’t right or wrong – they just are. It’s also okay to feel vulnerable – so many of us are scared and fearful.
For me, I have a choice; I can exit life or move to another country. I can also go through this, taking out my frustration, spew my negative feelings onto others, behave in a destructive manner, say or do things that I regret later, keep my negative feelings bottled up inside and dwell on them – all of which are detrimental and very non-productive as well, taking a toll on my mental and physical health. It would also keep me stuck and unable to move forward!
Finally, I can choose to deal with my feelings appropriately. If I’m sad, I can let myself cry, because it’s very healthy to cry. If I’m angry, I can beat the crap out of a pillow, write all my feelings down on paper, vent without attacking or making others wrong – all of which I have done before. I can take extra care of myself emotionally and physically, fill my mind with something positive, pause before I say or write something to others, be compassionate, kind and forgiving or do what I can to make a positive impact in this world, even if it’s on a small scale.
What I have found in my past experiences is when I didn’t deal with things appropriately, I ended up dealing with them inappropriately, which made a path of destruction. Life isn’t always fair or the way we want it and there will be disappointments. There is also a gift in adversity, however it doesn’t come in a Tiffany’s box and sometimes we have to look for it!
Taylor Kay Stephens, speaker, author and transformational life coach, is no stranger to tragedy, adversity and obstacles. She teaches people how to get out of overwhelm, change their bad habits and stop self-defeating behaviors. What makes Taylor different? She challenges the status quo and thinks outside the box. She’s developed her own easy, practical techniques and systems so simple a child can do them. You may contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org and discover more at TaylorKayStephens.com.