By Lisa Zahn
For many children, Spring Break is coming up. Whooo hoooo! Divorced business owners just might need a reality check …
If you are divorced, that means that your kids are out of school for a week. You might be taking a “staycation” with them if finances don’t allow you to travel this year, or even take off time from work.
It might also mean that your kids are with your ex all week. Will they be traveling to a fabulous destination with their mother or father which they have been talking about for weeks on end? Has your ex promised them things he or she never did for you when you were married? Perhaps you just know that he or she hid assets from you in the divorce and now your ex suddenly has buckets of money to entertain and impress your children.
Your ex-husband may be a cheater, a liar, a lazy bum who never participated in your kids’ lives while you were still married. You did everything and now he is jetting about with his new, young girlfriend and masquerading as “Super Dad.”
Your ex-wife never worked or even attempted to help support the family while you were married. After a hard day at work, you came home every night to a filthy house, no dinner prepared only to find that it was up to you to help your kids with their homework after soccer practice and dinner.
Are you at your breaking point hearing about his or her great new life after divorce?
It’s time you learned to bend.
Take a look at the situation from your kids’ perspective. Your children have the right to love both of their parents. They want both of their parents to love them back. To be excited for them when their dad can take them to the Florida Keys for Spring Break. To share in their pride when their mother gets a new job.
Whatever it is, take the time to look at life from your children’s eyes for a change. Rejoice each time their other parent wants to spend time with them, because that makes them feel valued. Celebrate with them when their relationships with your ex are going well because that lets them know that you support them having relationships.
The thing is, kids don’t expect their parents to be perfect. They don’t really care if they are going on a staycation or a week-long cruise. They do care about how much T–I-M-E their parents spend with them. Make it safe for your kids to express love for both their parents, all the time.
Originally featured in The OffBeat Business Magazine.
Lisa Zahn is a family law attorney who protects your best interests and works hard to ensure you, your family, and your business are prepared for whatever journey lies ahead. A partner at Mackoy, Hernandez, Qualls, Brown & Zahn and Board Certified by the Texas Board of Legal Specialization, Lisa is a recognized expert in the family law arena. If you need family law services in Denton, Dallas and Collin counties, wait no longer. Call 214-387-9056 today.
http://www.hqattorneys.com/lisa-zahn. Look for her ad in The OffBeat Business Magazine.
