By John Carroll
“If we don’t start, it’s certain that we can’t arrive.” – Zig Ziglar
Far too often, we give up before we ever reach our destination. It is not so much a matter of starting as it is of finishing. In our disposable society, we’ve become quite adept at giving up. You see this illustrated by rising high school drop-out rates, escalating divorce rates and the alarming number of new business failures.
Now I’m a firm believer that in order to succeed, you must overcome a significant failure and have one of those ‘aha moments’ of clarity. My aha moment helped me move away from self-limiting beliefs and a ‘give up’ mentality, after two major setbacks in early adulthood. What I learned was that I had not only been holding myself back, but also hurting other people in the process by not giving my best effort.
So, back to the original question, what do we gain by giving up?
The short answer (always) is, it depends. Sometimes quitting is the best option, particularly if continuing is no longer appropriate, impedes our progress, or has adverse consequences. The problem with giving up, however, is that many of the things we decide to discard can and do come back (i.e. weight loss) or if made in haste, lead us to regret our decisions later in life.
Before deciding to give up something important in your life today, ask yourself these three simple questions.
- What got you to this point?
- Will your life be better if you give up _______?
- How will your decision impact others?
For further clarity, I would also encourage you to read Lori Deschene’s article, ‘10 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Giving Up on Your Dream.’
“Yes, there are two paths you can go by, but in the long run there’s still time to change the road you’re on.” – Led Zeppelin
If you are not happy with the direction of your life today, then change the narrative. My life began to dramatically change for the better when I discovered that in order to become the person I wanted to be, the thing I had to give up was the old me. In order to develop and evolve, both personally and professional, something has to continually change and in many instances that something is us.
Never, ever give up on yourself. You have the power to choose the direction of your life (and the people in it).
Choose wisely and keep Jane Goodall’s quote in mind when life gets hard, or fear and self-doubt start to creep in. “You cannot get through a single day without having an impact on the world around you. What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make.”
Enjoy the journey!
John Carroll is a business and leadership strategist who works with business leaders to help them ‘achieve the results to move beyond their vision.’ He is a best-selling author, educator, blogger and speaker. Email John at firstname.lastname@example.org or learn more at http://www.trescoach.com/.